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Self Improvement: How to Win With an Attitude of Gratitude

Misclaneous stuff

Author: Michael Cheney

You’ve probably already heard of something called a gratitude rock. I first came across the concept whilst watching the excellent DVD "The Secret".

The concept in a nutshell is that you carry a small rock, or some other small object, around in your pocket that whenever you touch (normally at the very beginning and end of each day) you devote some minutes of focused thinking around what you are grateful for in your life. Always open to new ideas I tried it and use it every day now!

Not only do I use it every morning when I put my clothes on and last thing at night just before bed. I also use it occasionally during challenging times throughout the day.

CAN A ROCK REALLY IMPROVE MY LIFE?

No. But your thoughts can. The rock is just the device. If a group of wise people said to you - every day at morning and night take a few minutes to give thanks for how blessed you are in whichever area of your life you choose - you would lapse. But with a rock - you can’t miss it. You see it at the end of the day when your pockets get emptied and you see it first thing in the day when you put your clothes on.

No matter what you are striving for in life always take time out to be grateful for what you already have. You and I rank as the luckiest 1% of people alive on this wonderful planet today - we have a roof over our head, we have the ability to learn, eat and drink clean water. We are given every chance to live to our 70s and beyond.

Think of gratitude as a way of constantly upgrading the size of your success-fuel-tank. Whenever you are thankful you make room for another tankful.

I strongly recommend you get your own "gratitude rock" and use it every day - best thing in the morning and last thing in the evening to remind you of what you are grateful for.

It can be the small things or the big things. Be grateful for your eyes, your hearing, your friends, your freedom, the last meal you ate or your ability to read this!

What you need to remember is that being grateful is not some airy-fairy, new age nonsense - it WORKS! The more grateful you are for the things you already have in your life the more you open yourself up to receiving more of those things.

Aside from everything else and all the benefits it brings you being grateful for the great things in your life makes you feel good and ultimately this is what you’re aiming for right?

I mean, yes, of course you want the fast car, the mansion, the money in the bank, the perfect partner etc. But really all that is behind each of your goals is the driving fact that you want to BE happy and FEEL happiness.

So why wait?

You can have the feeling of happiness right now by taking a couple of minutes out every day to give thanks for the good things in your life. It’s only when you do this that you start to gain a bigger picture of your position, see how the land lies and re-energize for that push forward towards your bigger goals!

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Posted by Admin on Friday, October 12 @ 00:00:00 MST (117 reads)
Spiritual Growth Through Meditation - 4 Simple Steps

Meditation

Author: Janet Erickson

One aspect of meditation is to slow down your thoughts enough to "see" your thoughts. Being able to see your thoughts will give you the ability to change your life through the concept of the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction follows a simple physical principle that is applied in nutrition. That principle is "you are what you eat". Applied to the Law of Attraction the principle becomes "you are what you think". Think wonderful thoughts and wonderful events will come into your life. Think that everybody is horrible then you will only see the horrible parts of life.

Meditation is the method used to see your thoughts. Since meditation is not easy I have listed 4 simple steps to help you move through the process.

Proper Posture - On the one hand meditation can be done in any position. But there are certain things that happen during meditation that are enhanced by proper posture. The first thing to consider is staying awake. Since you are producing a state of extreme relaxation the most likely outcome, from a rushed and hectic life, is to fall asleep. But with that aside meditation will let energy (chi) flow through your body. The energy follows certain paths and a seated upright position is the most enabling for this energy flow.

Proper Breathing - Another reason for proper posture is that many meditation methods have a breathing component. Not only is there breath control involved but there are certain visualization that go along with the breath. The most common visualization is that on the inhale through the nose to see the breath come in through the nose, travel up over the head, down the back and up the front of the body to the stomach area. On the exhale to see the breath rise up from the stomach area up the chest and out of the nose.

Proper Attitude - Meditation is a process of refinement that cannot be rushed. An attitude of calm expectation is needed to progress. If you become annoyed or angry at the speed of your progress then rest assured your progress will become even slower. Since one of the goals of meditation is to calm the mind then an angry or agitated mind will only stand in the way of the desired goal.

How to Concentrate - The most often given advice on how to meditate is to simply let your thoughts go. To just watch them and not to follow them. Which is very difficult. We have a great tendency to follow our thoughts into long stories until we forget completely about the act of meditating. An easier way to help slow down our thoughts is to concentrate on something. Imagine sitting on the edge of a lake at night and a full moon is clearly reflected in the lake. Keep your thoughts focused on the reflection until you can hold the image without there being any ripples in the water.

Simply follow these 4 steps and you will be on your way to changing your life in ways that will be predictable and controlled by you.

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About the Author: To read more about the process of spiritual healing and growth , please go to my website at www.janeterickson.com.

Posted by Admin on Tuesday, October 09 @ 18:37:55 MST (163 reads)
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The Joy of Giving

Spritual Enlightenment

The Joy of Giving
Submitted by: sharon

The Joy of Giving by Sharon Eiffel

Contrary to common thinking, giving has nothing to do with material wealth. Whilst it may be true that material possessions enhance the capability to give, material gifts serve only to express the attitude of giving behind. With or without material possessions we can still afford to give. After-all, it is the priceless gifts of love and caring which all humanity craves for.

Everyone wants to be on the receiving end all the time, but to have a consciousness and conscience to think of others first before ourselves is extraordinary. To give a stranger a simple smile goes a long way. Just a simple act of kindness, like someone holding the door for me, makes a difference in my entire day. Though the act itself might be very simple but it is the attitude behind the action which is valuable. So don’t worry too much about what exactly you are giving, what has value is the attitude behind it, as the cliché goes, ‘it is the thought that counts’.

Ironically, it is in the giving that we receive. Though we might not realize it immediately, or get the very same gift from another person but the more we give the more we receive. The immediate effect one can realize is on our bodies. The satisfaction that is gained from giving is invaluable. While we may spend our lives seeking for peace and joy, start giving and these things will just come to you.

Giving brings rewards which are beyond words. It’s a win-win situation, the giver benefits as well as the recipient. A person with a giving attitude has a positive outlook on the world. For how can you possibly give if your heart is filled with anger and frustration. So already, you can see, that by adopting a giving mindset, by seeking to put others first before self, our outlook on the world will simultaneously change. For all fears, worries and anxieties come when we are too bogged down with ourselves. However, the moment we let go of ‘me me me’ and think of others these worries will soon dissolve.

This is not suggesting that we give up on ourselves, but rather to take a step back and look at the wider picture. Rather than seeking to receive all the time, seek to give, remembering that whatever we cause others to experience we will experience it ourselves and so much more.

We are all part of the same thing. We all stem from ONE SOURCE and we generally all share the same feelings. By giving to others, you are working in alignment with the Source of all. And when you are in alignment with the Source, everything else is well taken off. You would have opened the floodgates of abundance into your life, and as you continue to give the more you will continue to receive.

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Boost Emotional Wellness and Transform Your Life From Flutter To Fly

Personal Development Author: Danette Hibberd

Emotional wellness is crucial to both happiness and success in life. How do we achieve such wellness?

The saying goes "Life begins at 40". But is this really true?

All women are fabulous at 40 yrs plus, but then so are men. Their lives too have begun! In fact, whether you are still in your twenties or thirties, your life has also begun and it is imperative that every minute of life is a positive step forward on the journey to your final destination. The destination of success.

Success does not have to mean financial wealth, but instead, happiness in your life, knowledge that you have achieved your goals and that you have made the most of every opportunity along the way.

The most advantageous method to boost your emotional wellness is through inspirational quotes. These compelling words written by worthy men and women in both the past and current day, serve to motivate and excite the mind, incite the spirit and as a result, goad the body into action.

Inspirational quotes contain many messages of hope and optimism, change and growth, happiness, love and friendship, success and prosperity. All bring ideas of hope, self worth and satisfaction in our lives . All in all, inspirational quotes will ignite the spark that lights the fire in each and every one of us.

An inspirational quote such as:

"Whatever the mind of a man can conceive, it can achieve." Unknown

will make us consider the possibilities of the greatness we ourselves can achieve, and persuade us to put a little more effort into realizing our goal.

Another inspirational quote:

"Don't quack like a duck.. soar like an eagle." Ken Blanchard, American author

again, elevates our desires to achieve and inspires us to consider the ways and means to propel us forward on our journey.

The benefits of inspirational and motivational quotes to our emotional wellness, regardless of our age or gender, are extraordinary. The incredible value these words impress on our minds, to ignite the spark that lights our fires, will most definitely trigger the stimulation necessary to improve our total being, our goals in life, our emotional wellness and in turn, the relationships we have with those around us. Read and nurture these inspirational quotes regularly and before you know it, your life will be transformed.

Don't be a butterfly that simply stays perched fluttering her wings. Transform from a simple flutter to a fly.

"I only ask to be free. The butterflies are free." Charles Dickens

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About the Author:

Danette Hibberd Wellness Coach Author - From Flutter to Fly Total wellness site for women 40 yrs plus encompassing all anti-ageing aspects in beauty, nutrition, emotional and physical areas through inspiration, motivation and education.

Posted by Admin on Wednesday, August 22 @ 19:39:22 MST (126 reads)
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Law of Attraction Failures: What is Actually Happening?

Law of Attraction

Author: Anisa Aven

What is actually happening when we just can't seem to make the Law Of Attraction Work for us?

Q. I am trying to keep my focus and energy positive however, for the first time in my life I am facing foreclosure. I have perfect credit and have my whole life. How do I have peace when there is such a strict time line for the universe to work?

I saw the secret 3 months ago and began then to manifest a buyer to the house that's been on the market since Dec 06. I was at peace because I had time, and trusted. I dropped the price drastically and then let it go, confident.

When this last month rolled around with still no buyer and no more money to make the payment, I became so discouraged and now am having panic and not sleeping. I even had 7 other people helping manifest a buyer for us this whole time. If we don't get a buyer in the next 4 weeks, we lose our house, my perfect credit and will be left with a huge amount of credit card debt we used to fix up the house, not to mention our profit.

It is getting harder by the day to remain in an energy state necessary, yet I must. I even came to terms with being okay if I must face these burdens. But it doesn't seem to be helping the panic and fear. I let go of all my other intentions to focus only on this one now. I even tried *not* focusing on this one and only on wealth in whatever manner. But so far all the universe sends me are dimes daily." - help?!

A. Sometimes the best way to figure out how to create something better is to simply return to the beginning. Let's re-examine how to consciously harness the law of attraction and intentionally employ the Power of the Universal Mechanism:

In reality there are only three steps:

1) Ask for what you want.
2) Allow it to happen.
3) Take action in the direction of your dreams.

It's easy, right?! Here's what usually happens:

We ask, attempt to allow, and take action. When what we want is not appearing to manifest, we cease and desist step 2 - the allowing. We stop allowing what we want by judging what is as 'wrong', 'negative' or 'not in alignment' with all that we desire.

The truth is we are getting exactly what is in alignment with our most dominant energy- always, without exception. Therefore, no matter how certain we are that we've been focused on positive thoughts, and there's no way the Universe has been responding correctly, it's not the Universe that is 'off-center' but our own consciousness and corresponding energetic web of intentions, thoughts, emotions, and beliefs that are attracting our experience.

This can be broken down even further, according to both what usually happens and how we would choose to create if we could be more conscious and intentional with the Law of Attraction.

For me, it is truly humbling to know that even though I know the process above and I know which path is the more optimal road for creating all that I desire, I too find myself in the middle of the self-sabotaging road of fear, doubt, and spiritual disconnection!

Our work is to be willing to constantly but gently, continue to readjust and get back on the faithful track that 'all is well' and 'I am indeed a fabulous creator.' There's a rhythm to conscious creation: First we ask for what we want, then we accept, love, and allow what is, then we seek more joy and love through inspired action, then we ask for what we want with greater clarity and begin the process again.

Watch for language signals that indicate 'how' we are creating:

"Trying to stay positive" indicates "not succeeding at being positive."
"Only sending dimes" indicates "I don't believe I'm going to get enough of what I need in time."
"Discouraged, panic, not sleeping" indicates the feelings that precipitated panic were there all along and now they've grown in their negative impact. If we are honest, they've been under the surface the entire time.
"Coming to terms with facing these burdens doesn't seem to help with the panic and fear" indicates you aren't really at peace with the burdens. Panic and fear will not be present when you are at peace - they cannot hold the same vibrational space.

Having explained why we create the way we do, I'll suggest a few things you can do about it.

When we've already jumped overboard without a life preserver, the first order of business is to surrender to the sea! This does not mean we stop swimming but it does mean that we accept the fact that we must deal with the issue at hand. Fighting the water robs the precious energy that we need to survive.

Accept what is as Divinely Perfect - even when you cannot possibly understand "how?!?!" It's too late now to wish it hadn't happened. The only thing left to do is allow it to be. When you surRender to what is as all part of the Divine Plan you render it powerless over you.

By accepting the Divine Order to any situation, you stop giving the negative aspects of the problem your attention and neutralize the impact of unhelpful reactions. SurRendering feels positive, hopeful, and peaceful. It does not feel fearful, doubtful, sad, or apathetic. If you think you've surRendered but continue to feel disconnected, then you are still fighting the water and wasting precious energy.

Once you've stopped the energy leakage by accepting Divine Order, you will feel a sense of courageous peace. Your mottos become "I can handle this", "this too shall pass", and "bring it on!"

Now, if I were in this situation, I would take a day to EFT (use Emotional Freedom Technique) to neutralize every fearful thought I've ever had about this situation; all the past memories I can conjure up that remind me of this situation, and all the thoughts and feelings that are negative about the consequences.

Not only will this deepen your ability to surRender to the Divine Order, but it will also neutralize the negative vibrations that have been creating the opposite of what you want from the very beginning. From this new place of neutrality, you can now begin again to ask for what you want with greater clarity, certainty, conviction and faith.

It's not over - your conscious creation capacity is never over. Your work is to learn from what is, trust that all is well and continue to redirect your intentions. Take a deep breath and start swimming with conviction and you'll not only get through this but you'll find that the outcome was absolutely part of the Divine Plan for your life.

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Posted by Admin on Tuesday, August 14 @ 00:00:00 MST (89 reads)
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Steven Pavlina Personal Development Blog

· Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog Personal Development for Smart People 2008-07-22T11:30:51Z WordPress http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/feed/atom/ Steve Pavlina http://www.stevepavlina.com <![CDATA[Tolerance Is Resistance to Love]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/07/tolerance-is-resistance-to-love/ 2008-07-21T21:32:47Z 2008-07-22T11:30:51Z SHARETHIS.addEntry({ title: "Tolerance Is Resistance to Love", url: "http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/07/tolerance-is-resistance-to-love/" });]]> One of the traps that’s easy to fall into is filling your life with too many incompatibilities — people, places, objects, circumstances, and activities that just don’t mesh with the person you are on the inside.

When your external reality is out of sync with your inner self, your inner self will resist it. This creates the feeling of wanting to escape your circumstances. You may feel powerless to make big changes, but deep down you’ll still sense a strong desire to “get out” and leaveparts of your reality behind. You’ll fantasize about quitting your job, moving out, or ending a relationship.

It’s easy to lose years of your life while surrounded by incompatible energies. This problem is so common that some people just consider it normal. They figure it’s normal to dread going to work or to feel disconnected from the people around them. This may be common, but it certainly isn’t a healthy situation.

When you look at the different parts of your life — your career, health, relationships, spiritual practice, daily habits, and finances — and ask, “Is this really me?” do you hear some no’s? How long have you been tolerating these incompatibilities? Why don’t you simply kick them out of your life, so you can replace them with something more compatible?

Some people think it’s a good thing to tolerate the parts of life they don’t like. That’s dumb. Tolerance isn’t acceptance. Tolerance is resistance. To be more specific, tolerance is resistance to love.

When you fill your life with energies you must tolerate, you prevent yourself from attracting what you really want. The more incompatibilities you tolerate in your life, the fewer compatibilities you’ll be able to attract and enjoy. Keep this up for a few years, and you’ll be drowning in a life that feels totally wrong for you.

What bothers you about your life? What are you tolerating right now? I’d like to challenge you to stop tolerating your life. Either fully accept it, and love it as it is. Or kick out the incompatible parts to create the space for a life you’re able to love and accept completely.

Out with the old, in with the new

When you boot the incompatibilities from your life, you raise your energy and your consciousness because you’re no longer stuck in a state of resistance. Now you feel relief and freedom. This opens the door to attracting and experiencing what you truly want.

Many people, upon quitting an unfulfilling job or leaving a draining relationship, feel a sense of relief. There may be some anxiety and uncertainty about what to do next, but the feeling of relief is very strong. “Wow, I can breathe again! I’m glad that’s finally over! Time to move on to a new chapter of my life!” Relief feels like a heavy weight has been set down.

Some people think they can attract what they want while continuing to tolerate the negative elements from their lives. This is a mistake. Again, tolerance is resistance, and resistance keeps you stuck. When you resist what is, you can’t create and attract what you want. That resistance you feel acts like a delete key on all your best intentions.

Stop saying yes

The first step in resolving incompatibilities is to stop saying yes to them. Just stop. Accept that you don’t want what you’ve been getting, and realize that it makes no sense to keep saying yes to what you don’t want.

If someone asks you to do something that doesn’t feel right to you, say no. That may feel very uncomfortable at first, but there will also be a twinge of relief each time you do it.

When you get that twinge of relief, it means you’re on the right path. If you decline something you really should have accepted, you’ll feel more guilt and disappointment than relief.

If you know you’re in the wrong business, for example, then stop saying yes to new clients. Stop marketing and promoting the business. Stop pouring your energy into something you know you don’t want. I know — some people will be upset by this. So what? Let them be upset, and do it anyway.

This is the approach I used when I realized I wanted to retire from computer game development. I no longer felt compatible with that work, and I was merely tolerating it. But I didn’t feel I could just up and quit. So my first step was to stop saying yes to it.

I stopped developing new games. I stopped licensing games from other developers. I stopped actively marketing and promoting my existing products. When new “opportunities” to grow the business came my way, I just said no.

Obviously this caused my income to decline, but it also raised my energy. It allowed me to start accepting that it was time to change careers.

When you know you’re on the wrong path, stop. Just stop. Don’t take any more steps along that path. Just stand still for a while, even if it means your life starts to fall apart a little. You’ll survive.

Watching my income drop was actually a very healing experience for me. It gave me a sense that change was inevitable. I was letting go of the old, and this gave me the time and energy to explore what I wanted to do next. Creating that space is a heck of a lot more important than financial security.

Commit to quitting

After you’ve stopped saying yes, your energy will rise to the point where you’re ready to commit to quitting. You may not be ready to say, “I quit,” right this minute, but you know you’ll get there soon. You know it’s inevitable.

You may give yourself a specific deadline to quit, but that isn’t always necessary. The most important element is that you’ve reached the point where quitting is a done deal. Whatever incompatibilities you’re facing must go. Their days are numbered.

Once you’ve stopped saying yes, the death of the old becomes a certainty. It’s only a matter of time before it dies on its own. Once you’ve stopped putting fresh energy into a career, relationship, or activity, it’s on its way out. The only question is how long you’ll remain in this limbo state before you’re able to fully leave.

Quitting is an essential part of transitioning. If trying to “transition” has been keeping you stuck, then focus your energy on quitting instead. Make a commitment to quit the old, even before you’ve figured out what the new will be.

I’m currently in this stage with some changes I want to make to my business model. For a while I’ve been feeling that the advertisements on my website aren’t compatible with me anymore. In 2005 and 2006, I liked earning income from ad clicks. It seemed like a great business model. But today I just tolerate the ads (which means I resist them). Many of the Adsense ads served up aren’t a good fit for the message I want to convey. So I finally realized they had to go.

Consequently, I’m committed to make StevePavlina.com ad-free by the end of this year. This means eliminating all the Google Adsense ads and text link ads from the site. I won’t be replacing this with other forms of ad sales. I’m just going to eliminate third-party advertising on the site completely.

Earlier this summer I went through the phase where I stopped saying yes. I turned down several advertisers that wanted to buy new text link ads. When one of my existing advertisers wanted to renew, I told him that I was sorry but I couldn’t continue to sell advertising to him. This decision has already cost me thousands of dollars in “easy money” that I could have earned for a few minutes work. But each time I say no, I feel a greater sense of lightness and relief.

When incompatible ways of earning income exit my life, I gain the energy and freedom I need to begin attracting other ways of generating income that are more compatible with me.

While I’ve posted my commitment to an ad-free site publicly now, that doesn’t make me feel any more committed because I was already committed on the inside. I can clearly see that I need to switch to an ad-free site. I’m not worried about figuring out the right sources for income generation between now and then. I’m just enjoying being in that place of holding the vision of what I want and letting go of what I know I don’t want. When the time is right, I’ll be ready to transition completely. But for now I like the sense of inevitability that it’sgoing to happen… and that I’ll have an ad-free site in 2009.

I know I have to say “I quit” to what I don’t want before I can summon the energy and consciousness necessary to attract what I do want. If something isn’t right for me, it doesn’t matter whether or not I can see a more compatible match standing in the wings. I have to say “I quit” first. I probably won’t be able to see the new, more compatible match until I’m ready to release the old one.

If you work at a job you don’t like, but you don’t feel ready to quit right now, then say to your boss, “I have to tell you that I’m going to be leaving in 6 months. I just want to give you as much notice as possible, so we can have a smooth transition.” At least this way, you’ve gotten things rolling. This also makes it easier to stop saying yes to anything that would keep you stuck. Of course there’s a good chance your employer will help speed things along, so it may not take anywhere near 6 months to transition out. If you find yourself out the door in less than a month, that says something about how essential your job was, doesn’t it?

Quit

Eventually we must say a firm “I quit” to incompatibilities we’ve been tolerating. It can take a while to build up to this stage, but if we’ve worked through the first two stages, this stage is inevitable. In fact, this step is often a non-event.

It may still take some courage to get yourself to finally say, “I quit” to what you know you don’t want, but by this point it has become a necessity. The desire to quit has probably been building for quite a while. When you finally cross the line, there’s a great feelingof relief and a sense of new possibilities.

Don’t let fear stop you from extricating yourself from what you don’t want. If you know you don’t want it, you’re going to have to quit. The longer you remain stuck, the worse it is for you. Your inner self will keep nagging at you. You’ll be stuck dealing with a lot of negative emotions until you summon the courage to kick the incompatibilities out of your life.

Don’t get so attached to your status and your stuff that you can’t quit what you’ve been tolerating for too long. Your job title, money, and possessions won’t give you much comfort. Better to lose all of that than suffer through a phony life that just isn’t you. Ifyou can’t make money authentically and without lowering your consciousness, it’s better to be broke for a while.

If you ever get tempted to lower your consciousness (by tolerating parts of your life instead of loving them) in exchange for more money, security, or comfort, realize you’re about to step foot through the gates of hell. It’s a trap that can see you wallowing in negativity for yearsto come.

Love

When you quit something you’ve been tolerating, whether it be a job, a relationship, a bad habit, or an unhealthy diet, you raise your energy and your consciousness. This enables you to imagine, intend, attract, and receive what you really do want.

You won’t be able to attract what you want while you’re still tolerating what you don’t want. You have to say “I quit” first. This is life’s test of courage. If you can’t summon the courage to quit what you know you don’t want, you certainly won’t have the strength to receive and hold onto what you do want. So you have to pass through this qualification test first. I know it sucks to have to go through it, but it’s there for a good reason.

You’re being asked, “Are you willing to step up? Are you willing to demand more from life? Can you prove you won’t settle for less than what you want?”

If you get scared, run back to the familiar, and settle for tolerance, you lose this challenge. You’re saying to life, “Sorry, I’m not ready for anything more than what I have right now. I’m too scared. Let me stay here for a while longer, wallowing in what I don’twant. I need to build more strength before I’m ready to ask for what I do want. Please keep making my life harder until I’m finally able to let go of this.”

Fortunately there’s no limit to how often you can take this test. When you ask for what you want, you can expect some resistance to come up. You may have a financial setback or a health problem that makes you want to run back to what you know, even if it isn’t what you want. If you do that, however, you’re proving you aren’t ready to receive what you want. You can’t hold onto what you want if you’re going to run back to what you don’t want every time life throws a little obstacle your way.

The real test is whether you will choose to resonate with courage or fear. If you choose fear, you aren’t ready to have what you want. If you choose courage, you demonstrate your readiness. Courage is the ability to choose love rather than fear, regardless of circumstances. When you’re able to choose love no matter what, then you’re finally ready to receive what you’re asking for.

Another word for tolerance is cowardice. I know that sounds harsh, but it’s fairly accurate. If you’re experiencing what you don’t want, it’s because you’re allowing it. You remain free to choose something else. The question is whether you’ll step up and claim it… or chicken out and tell yourself it’s too big or that you aren’t ready or that you can’t possibly make it happen. That’s cowardice.

I enjoy a pretty abundant lifestyle, but what compensation would that be if I had to sacrifice my courage to keep it? Life without courage is nothingness. It’s an empty void. If you can’t “bet the farm” on a new direction that calls to you, you aren’t free, and youcertainly aren’t living consciously. Better to go broke and have some incredible learning experiences than to lower your consciousness and trap yourself in a gilded cage. Money should always be your slave, never your master.

If your life isn’t filled with what you love, who chose that? Who’s choosing it right now? Who’s free to say no at any time? Who’s responsible for fixing it? If you can’t say no to what you don’t want, then how are you supposed to experience what you do want?If you want to travel the right path for you, then isn’t is reasonable to stop taking steps along the wrong path first.

If you’re experiencing what you don’t want, then stop choosing to experience it. Quit. Leave. Stop. Enjoy the sense of relief that comes from releasing what you don’t want. This is much better than dying a slow death on a path you don’t even want to pursue.

If you don’t want it, let it go. Say goodbye to the old with love, so you can say hello to the new with love.

If you take this simple advice and follow it for a period of years, you’ll soon find that your life is filled with what you love instead of what you tolerate. But eventually you’ll be guided in yet another direction, and it will be time for another round of releasing. This process never ends because it’s necessary for us to grow. We can’t grow if we keep repeating the same experiences over and over. We must continue to engage new energies that bring us fresh growth experiences.


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This hour-long interview is available online if you want to listen to it. It will be available on their main show page for a week, and after that it will be added to their show archives.

We discussed a variety of topics including blogging, search engines, marketing a blog, monetizing a blog, personal development, authenticity, the raw food diet, and my upcoming book Personal Development for Smart People.

This interview mentions the Raw Spirit Fest, which I’ll be attending September 12-14, 2008 in Sedona, Arizona. I’m really looking forward to going.

Next month I’m scheduled to do a radio interview with Diane Ray at Hay House Radio (August 11th at 11am Pacific time).


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Steve Pavlina http://www.stevepavlina.com <![CDATA[PhotoReading Discount Returns for July]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/07/photoreading-discount-returns-for-july/ 2008-07-18T19:33:52Z 2008-07-18T19:16:58Z SHARETHIS.addEntry({ title: "PhotoReading Discount Returns for July", url: "http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/07/photoreading-discount-returns-for-july/" });]]> Learning Strategies has brought back the PhotoReading discount for the remainder ofJuly, meaning that this program is once again available to StevePavlina.com readers for a 59% discount. This is the program that teaches you how to absorb written material at a much faster rate. Today I can PhotoRead a typical personal development book in about an hour, with stronger recall of theideas than if I slow-read it.

Aside from my own book, the PhotoReading system has to be the most popular product I’ve recommended during the past two years. I think the reason for its popularity is that instead of just giving you knowledge, ideas, or advice, it trains you in a new skill you can use for the rest of your life.

Learning Strategies has only offered this discount twice before, once in 2006 and again in 2007. This discount saves you about $150 on the Classic version and more than $300 on the Deluxe version. Both versions are backed by a 30-day money-back guarantee, which can be extendedto 6 months upon request.

I first learned PhotoReading in the summer of 2006, so now that I’ve been PhotoReading for almost two years, I decided it would be wise to update my original review. I had just started PhotoReading books when I wrote it and was probably a little too excited because I was thinking of how much time it would save me. A number of people told me it was a bit too over the top compared to my usual writing style. I think they were right, so this morning I gave the review a fresh editing pass to make it more authentic and informative.

If you want to get a better idea of how PhotoReading works, you may enjoy reading my PhotoReading Walkthrough, which documents my experience PhotoReading the book Life on Purpose by Dr. Brad Swift. I PhotoRead that book last year and can still vividly recall the ideas from it today. What’s unusual is that I can also visualize the layout of some of the pages from that book, as if they’re imprinted in my memory.

I don’t have anything fresh and new to share that I didn’t already mention in my one-year PhotoReading update, so I’ll simply say that I’m still happily PhotoReading. At this point it’s an ingrained habit, so I pretty much take it for granted now.

Anyway… check out my updated PhotoReading review if you’d like to learn more about it.


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Steve Pavlina http://www.stevepavlina.com <![CDATA[What If You Have Many Different Interests and Cannot Commit to Any of Them?]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/07/what-if-you-have-many-different-interests-and-cannot-commit-to-any-of-them/ 2008-07-21T01:48:46Z 2008-07-17T20:40:39Z SHARETHIS.addEntry({ title: "What If You Have Many Different Interests and Cannot Commit to Any of Them?", url: "http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/07/what-if-you-have-many-different-interests-and-cannot-commit-to-any-of-them/" });]]> If you’re attracted to many different pursuits and can’t commit to any single one of them for your career, college major, or income source, then good for you! Leonardo da Vinci was in the same boat. He’s considered by many to be the greatest genius of all time.

The notion that you have to commit to a single trade for life (or even for a decade or two) makes sense if you want to live like an industrial worker drone. But then you’re just filling the role of a cog in a giant machine, perfectly disposable and easily replaced by similar cogs.

Let me guess… the people telling you (maybe even yelling at you) to pick one thing and commit to it are also on the drone path themselves, right? Do you honestly want their results? Or would you like something better?

It’s perfectly okay to reject the drone path, you know. Lots of people do, and they’re much happier for it. But they aren’t the same people that will tell you, “Pick one thing and stick to it, or you’ll never amount to anything.” Instead they’ll probably say, “The more interests you pursue, the smarter you’ll become.”

There’s no rule that says you must commit to being a drone

I don’t want to commit to any one thing for life. I don’t even like committing to just one thing for a month. I have too many interests. If I picked just one thing and let all the rest go, I wouldn’t be happy. I’d just feel trapped. So I chose to reject that option. I can see that it isn’t right for me. Hmmm… for some reason the people that said I should specialize got a lot quieter when my eclectic interests started paying off financially.

Presently I enjoy writing, blogging, speaking, podcasting, online business, studying self-improvement, philosophy, humor, disc golf, psychic development, etc. Why should I pick just one? Am I a blogger, an author, a speaker, a personal development expert, an Internet entrepreneur? So I have a chaotic resume. Who cares?

In the past I trained in martial arts (tae kwon do and kempo), did lots of distance running including a marathon, learned to count cards at blackjack, performed with a comedy improv troupe, learned to juggle, designed and programmed computer games, and did lots of other things I enjoyed. Many of these activities were pursued on weekdays between the hours of 9am and 5pm. But guess what… nobody came to arrest me for it. The earth didn’t spin off its axis because I failed to pick just one thing.

If you have lots of interests, people will complain. Let them.

It might be hard to see it unless you hang out with me in person, but I switch back and forth between various interests all the time. Sometimes I’m really dedicated to writing/blogging for several days in a row. Other times I’ll put my blog on the back burner, and I’ll spend more time speaking or just working on personal growth.

Sometimes people complain when I slack off on blogging to pursue other interests, but I retain the freedom to make that choice when I know it’s right for me. Since there are hundreds of free articles in the archives and 21 free podcasts, and since the forums are available 24/7, I don’t feel like I have to post something every day to keep the blog going. If my blog starts to feellike a “monkey on my back,” I simply let it go for a while. Then I pick it up again when I’m inspired to return to it.

Whenever I pull back from one area to pursue another, I get the “What happened to you? Where have you been?” questions. If I take a few months off from going to Toastmasters meetings (such as I did while writing my book), my friends wonder what happened to me. Did I fall off the planet? Am I quitting the club? If I don’t blog for a week, somebody may start a new “Is Steve dead?” discussion in the forums. I just accept that this happens. It’s a natural consequence of having a variety of interests. I’m not dead. I’m just switching modes. Thisweek I’m really inspired to do some blogging. Earlier this year I was more focused on writing my book. Later this year I’ll be doing a lot of work to promote my book.

Many interests = faster growth = becoming smarter

The benefit of having lots of different interests is that you train your brain to learn many new patterns. The patterns you learn in one field can then be applied to totally different fields to solve problems creatively.

Within a single field, the dominant experts tend to develop tunnel vision. They get attached to certain patterns. They frequently network with each other, so they all know each other’s favorite patterns. This definitely happens in the field of personal development.

But often the people who do the most innovative work are the outsiders who arrive with fresh patterns that the existing experts haven’t been exposed to. This is great because these outsiders can stimulate lots of growth. Albert Einstein is a good example. While he worked as a patent clerk, he had virtually no contact with the mainstream physics community.

One of the reasons I’ve been so successful as a personal development blogger is that I came into this field as an outsider. My college degrees are in computer science and mathematics, not psychology or philosophy. Because of my background, I often notice patterns that other people in thisfield overlook (or simply discount).

What makes me different from most other experts in this field is that I tend to think in binary and algorithmic terms. When you write a computer program, either it produces the desired output or it doesn’t. A math problem is either solved or it isn’t. You can’t use a half-assed or fuzzy approach in those fields and expect to succeed. Either you’re right or you’re wrong. Either you have a solution that works, or you don’t. There isn’t much of an in-between where you can squeak by. If you want to succeed in computer science or math, you have to be good at solving problems. Your solutions have to actually work. You can’t fake it or B.S. your way into a computer’s good graces and expect it to ignore your personal failings. If you’re wrong, you get zero results. A bad program usually doesn’t degrade gracefully — the program simply won’t run at all.

When I got interested in personal development, one thing that really annoyed me was just how wishy washy and imprecise everything was. There were entire bookshelves filled with what I considered to be utter B.S. The books promised practical solutions to real problems, but inside all you’dfind would be vapid drivel and stories of exaggerated results. After reading lots of computer programming books and learning precise solutions that would work properly every time, this was a big change for me.

Since I like patterns that are very tight, precise, and effective, I dislike solutions that aren’t universal. I also dislike gray areas since I prefer to think in more black and white terms. So I’m inclined to say things like, “Either you’re doing what you love, or you aren’t. Which is it?” I know my approach won’t appeal to everyone, and more than once I’ve been accused of being too rigid in my thinking, but I also know there’s a place for this mindset in the self-help field.

Similarly, if you were a psychologist coming into the field of computer science, you might be inclined to introduce problem-solving methods that allow for more fluidity and imprecision… such as fuzzy logic.

When I wrote my book Personal Development for Smart People, I developed a pseudo-mathematical model for personal growth, including a complete structural framework I’ve never seen anywhere else in this field. I could have subtitled my book, “The hidden geometry of personal growth.” (If you follow that last link and scroll down a bit, you’ll see a triangle that represents the essence of that model.) Maybe we can’t get as precise as mathematics when dealing with conscious growth, but I think we can get a lot closer than we are now.

If you like thinking about personal growth in fairly linear terms — i.e. tell me how to figure out what I want and how to get there — you’ll probably love my book. But if you prefer a more Zen-like, go-with-the-flow, allow-life-to-happen-to-you style, you’ll probably find my book too rigid for your tastes. Nevertheless, I have no doubt this book will carve out a strong position in its field (just as my blog has done) because its creative solutions and patterns will help people solve problems in new ways.

Now imagine if I switched careers again. I could then apply patterns I learned from all the other fields I studied to produce creative, original work in that new field. Patterns from personal growth, math, computer science, blogging, martial arts, etc. would surely generate new solutions in seemingly unrelated fields.

Even when I play disc golf with my friends, I apply patterns I learned in other fields. For example, my disc golf buddies all have a preferred throwing style for their drives — they almost always throw their drives using the same technique. But I will employ different throwing styles to adapt to the terrain. Sometimes I’ll do forehand throws, sometimes I’ll use backhand, and sometimes I’ll throw rollers — all within the same game. This means I don’t get as much practice with any single style, but I can be more flexible in adapting to the terrain.

That was a very basic example, but “adapting solutions to the terrain” was actually a pattern I learned from computer programming. Programmers will often use different algorithms to solve essentially the same problem, adapting their solutions to the specific circumstances. There arelots of different sorting and searching algorithms, and the optimal solution depends on the particular problem you want to solve. When I play disc golf, I ask myself, “What is the correct throwing technique (algorithm) I need to use here to help me minimize (optimize) the number of throws itwill take me to get to the basket (goal)?”

You’ll be surprised at how many opportunities there are to use insights you learn in one field to solve problems in a seemingly unrelated field. The long-term benefit of cultivating many different interests is that you build a powerful toolkit of problem-solving patterns. This gives you more flexibility when facing certain challenges. People sometimes praise me for a brilliant insight that helped them solve a challenging problem when all I did was cross-pollinate a known solution pattern from one field to another.

Making money from your varied interests - creative solutions

It’s important to note that you don’t have to earn money from all of your interests. If you just dive in and pursue what you enjoy, you may be surprised to find out which interests help you generate income and which don’t.

Most of my interests don’t generate any income directly, and that’s perfectly fine. But a lot of them do, including hosting advertising on this website, writing a book, doing professional speaking, and reviewing and recommending products.

What earns me the most money right now? My income is fairly diversified, but the single most lucrative activity for me at present is reviewing and recommending products — not blogging or speaking. You might think I earn the most money from all the writing I do, but that isn’t how itworks. Perhaps my writing is what creates the most value for others, but it doesn’t generate the most income… at least not directly.

Publishers frequently send me information products to review. At any given time, I usually have 50-100 books and several days worth of audio/video in my queue. I listen to audio programs at the gym or on my computer at 2-4x playback speed, and I PhotoRead lots of books. (Incidentally, Learning Strategies is currently repeating their PhotoReading discount for StevePavlina.com readers this month — something they’ve done only once per year. I’ll make a separate blog post about that shortly after this one.)

When I encounter something I really, really love and feel good about recommending, I work out a profit-sharing deal with the publisher in exchange for recommending and promoting their product on my site. This works great for information products because the profit margin is often 80% or higher,since the value is in the information, not the packaging. Usually I can also get them to offer my readers a better deal than if you bought from them directly. This arrangement is a win for the publishers because they gain many new customers with no marketing costs. A good product will do more than$100,000 in sales in the first 30 days if I recommend it. It’s a win for me because I get all the free products I could ever desire, and I earn six figures a year just from a handful of recommendations. Once I’ve posted my product review, I enjoy an ongoing passive income from ongoing sales, receiving commission checks every month. The benefit for my readers is that they get introduced to the best products I find — often with a discount or bonus and always with a money-back guarantee so there’s no risk. Additionally, all the free articles and podcasts are basically subsidized by this arrangement, so I can afford to invest many hours writing new articles like this one without having to charge for the information. All things considered, I think this is an incredibly fair deal for everyone.

However, the honest truth is that while I enjoy reviewing and recommending products from time to time, I don’t want to turn this single activity into my full-time career. I don’t want my blog to become nothing but a product review site. What you may not realize though is that by deciding to pursue other interests, I’m leaving a lot of potential income on the table. If I really wanted to, I’m sure I could earn 5-10x more money from this website… virtually overnight. How to do that is a no-brainer. Instead of recommending just a few products per year, I could recommend a new product every week or two. I certainly have no shortage of products to choose from. But in order to get there, I’d have to do one of two things.

The first option would be endorse more products, regardless of whether I thought they were any good. There are many products backed by slick marketing that sell well online, but the underlying information is worthless junk. I wouldn’t even need to look at the products, so that would save me tons of time. Some publishers actually offer me pre-written endorsement letters, and all I’d need to do would be to affix my name and send them off. You’ll encounter many Internet marketers who do this very thing, proudly recommending products they’ve never tried, just because they know it will make them money. I see the same endorsement letters I’ve been offered showing up in other people’s newsletters. Don’t worry though — you won’t see me going this route. Personally I can’t stomach the thought of doing anything like this. It isn’t aligned with truth and love, and it’s also the wrong polarity for me. I’m simply sharing that if my #1 goal was to earn more money by doing just one thing, I could certainly do it. But I think I’ll hang onto my soul for now.

Since I can summarily reject the first option, the other option would be to review a lot more products. Hopefully by reviewing more products in less time, I’d be able to find more gems. If I did nothing but review and recommend products full-time, I could probably find 20-30 really good ones I could honestly recommend each year. But this would mean I’d have to dump a lot of my other interests, and I’m simply not willing to do that, even if it means earning 10x more money. I’m happier earning less money while maintaining a good balance of activities I enjoy. So I have to reject this option because it isn’t aligned with love.

My point is that you don’t have to go after the option that makes you the most money. You can pursue many different interests and still find a creative mix that allows you to earn money AND maintain an abundant lifestyle AND be happy AND make a difference. It’s a huge mistake to pursue money at all costs, especially if you have to sacrifice so many of the things you love doing. Do what you enjoy, and leave the extra money on the table.

I’ve met a few Internet marketers who will pimp themselves to promote any potentially lucrative products they come across, milking their lists for as much money as they can, without even trying the products they endorse. They pride themselves on being able to manipulate emotions to get people to buy. They boast about how much money they make from promoting overpriced crap to people who are too naive to know any better. (I can attest to the veracity of the “crap” label because my office toilet is permanently stained from flushing many of the products they’ve sent me.) After conversing with such people for a while, I feel like I’ve been drenched in darkworker slime. What do I say to them? “Sorry, I can’t help promote your products on my site because you’re evil.” I’m not sure how that one would fly.

Fortunately I’ve found a good way of responding to such people. I simply say, “Unfortunately my intuition says no on this, so I’ll have to pass.” I really love that line because they have no defense against it, and best of all, it’s the truth. If I say anything else, they usually pop into “counter objections mode” and try to turn me. But they have no means of arguing against my intuition because they’re so out of touch with theirs. (If you’re one of the people who happened to be on the receiving end of this line from me, it doesn’t normally mean I think you’re evil. It’s just one of many stock replies I give for business offers I must decline.)

If I try to challenge such people to realign themselves with truth and love, that sometimes has the side effect of making them want to light saber me. Eventually I’ll find a way to turn one of them. Such people are pretty well aligned with power, but what they don’t yet realize is that if they could bring themselves into alignment with truth and love as well, they’d become even more powerful. They’d also be a lot happier and more fulfilled. This may sound strange, but I’m actually thinking of offering consultations to such people to help them restore balanceto their lives. They’re in a position to positively affect a lot of other people if they can get it right, so helping even one of those people can create a lot of leverage. But of course I couldn’t do that… because that would mean pursuing yet another interest. <- Yes, this issarcasm! ;)

Now that was a fun tangent. Ugh… don’t try to mix math and humor.

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If you aspire to be a one-hit wonder, by all means go for it. Otherwise, take note that historically speaking, people would develop a variety of skills to meet their needs. Overspecialization may be good for corporations, but it’s not so great for conscious human beings. Even a farmer from the 1850s probably has you beat in the skills diversity department. Can you look out at a vacant plot of land and build your own self-sustaining farm and a home for your family with some basic hand tools? (If you can say yes to that, then come to Las Vegas this summer and prove it!)

The next time someone tells you to settle down and pick just one thing for your career, your college major, or your source of income, I recommend you reply as follows: “I appreciate your concern, but since I don’t share your dream of becoming a prized poodle, I must reject your advice as being utterly stupid.”

Then challenge them to a round of disc golf. :)


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Steve Pavlina http://www.stevepavlina.com <![CDATA[How to Earn Your First Love Dollar]]> http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/07/how-to-earn-your-first-love-dollar/ 2008-07-16T23:42:41Z 2008-07-16T23:26:13Z SHARETHIS.addEntry({ title: "How to Earn Your First Love Dollar", url: "http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/07/how-to-earn-your-first-love-dollar/" });]]> If you really commit yourself to the idea, can you earn $1 from doing something you love?

Very often people who are stuck in the pattern of doing work they dislike will shun simple opportunities to earn small amounts of money doing something they love. They assume that if they could only earn a few bucks here and there doing what they love, then what’s the point? They won’t consider it unless they’re convinced such work will bring in some serious money… more than enough to cover all their expenses. A few dollars is just too trivial and pointless.

That mindset is a huge, huge mistake.

If you want to make a living (a great living), doing work you truly love, then a necessary first step is to earn that first dollar.

Be willing to receive

Allow that first dollar to arrive. Allow yourself to receive it. Make it feel welcomed even when it isn’t accompanied by 10,000 friends.

The first day I generated any real income from StevePavlina.com was February 14, 2005. Hmmm… I didn’t even realize until now that it was Valentine’s Day. How disgustingly appropriate! Now back to our story… That was the first day I put some ads on the site. I earned a whopping $2.36 from ad clicks.

I’d been blogging for 4-1/2 months at that point, so I already had dozens of articles on the site. I might have had a few affiliate links up before then, but they really didn’t perform. So Feb 14, 2005 was basically the first day StevePavlina.com began to earn any real income.

Now was it worth my time to do all of that work just to earn enough to buy a gallon of gasoline? (This was back when gasoline was less than $2 per gallon — today you’ll need a lot more ad clicks for that same gallon.)

Twenty months later my daily income from this website had increased by more than 500 times. Don’t scoff at the extra few bucks when they show up. If you treat them well, they may tell their friends about you. Since dollar bills can really get around, they often make a lot of friends.

When you accept that first love dollar, you tell the universe, “Okay, I’m willing to be paid for this kind of work. Can you bring me more opportunities like this?” And the universe will say, “Absolutely… no problem.”

But when you block yourself from receiving that first love dollar, you tell the universe, “No, thanks. I don’t want to be paid for doing what I love. I’d rather make a living doing what I hate. Then I’ll take my leftover energy and try to do what I love on the side. Please give this golden opportunity to someone else. I’m too busy implementing my plan for lifelong unhappiness.”

Accept the opportunity — in your pajamas if necessary

When the opportunity to earn that first love dollar arrives, it probably won’t be wrapped in a beautiful gift box with a bow on top. It will more likely sneak in the back door when you aren’t even looking.

When you catch a glimpse of that opportunity, your first inclination will be to say, “Sorry, this isn’t a good time. I’m in my pajamas. Would you please come back later?”

Of course if you do that, the universe will reply, “Argh… wrong vibration. This bozo ain’t ready. Next!”

The correct response is to accept the opportunity even while you’re still in your pajamas. Just run with it. Try to maintain a playful, childlike spirit.

The next time you feel inclined to turn down an opportunity to earn money (even a puny amount of money) doing something you love, give yourself a good smack upside the head, and do it anyway.

Remember this quote from the movie Ghostbusters: When someone asks if you’re a god, you say, “YES!”

Intend the opportunity

If you’ve never noticed any opportunities in your life to earn love money, you are really, really, really blind. Such opportunities are everywhere. When you train yourself to start noticing them, you’ll see them everywhere. You’ll start seeing so many of them, you won’t even know what to do with yourself.

Even if you’ve been (consciously or subconsciously) rejecting opportunities to earn some genuine love money, you’re always free to request another chance.

Take a moment to set this intention right now: I am now noticing and accepting an opportunity to earn at least one dollar from doing something I love.

Feel free to rephrase that intention (including the currency and the amount) however you like until it feels right to you. Just keep it positive and in the present tense. The exact phrasing isn’t really that important though. The most important element is whether or not you can feel the reality of the intention.

As you think about that intention, imagine it becoming real. How would you feel if it actually happened? Grateful? Amused? Surprised? Impressed? Put yourself in that place of feeling those feelings. Take a minute to do this right now even before you read the next sentence.

I’ll even do this with you. I’m already earning quite a bit from doing what I love, but consciously intending more of it certainly can’t hurt. Maybe I’ll notice an unusual opportunity I’ve been overlooking.

This reminds me of something that happened at the gym this morning. I started exercising on one of the elliptical machines, and I noticed the water bottle holder on this particular machine had a bunch of coins in it — some pennies and some dimes. It was probably around 35 cents total. I left the money for someone else to find, but the point is that I could have gotten paid for doing something I enjoyed if I’d accepted the cash in exchange for exercising. I would have earned about a penny a minute. Hey, it’s a start — toward what I don’t know — but I doubt it was random chance I picked that particular machine today when there were dozens of others to choose from.

Most likely when you hold this intention, something will come up within the next few days. I usually see an alpha reflection for my intentions within about 48 hours. In this case my alpha reflection already happened in the past, but I didn’t recognize it until now. Sometimes that happens. As soon as you notice your intention coming into physical reality, accept what you get and run with it. See where it leads. Don’t worry about whether or not it will lead to massive riches.

Take the inspiration and run with it

Often opportunities will manifest in the form of ideas. Your job is to turn those ideas into action.

Here are some random ideas for earning $1 doing something you may enjoy.

  1. Some guy earned about $5 auctioning his air guitar on eBay. Surely you could earn $1 auctioning something you created. (In case you don’t know what an air guitar is, it’s nothing but air — it doesn’t even exist!)
  2. Write a poem, an article, or a song. Share it with as many people as you can, and ask if they’ll pay you a quarter for the value they received from it. Get four people to say yes, and you’ve earned your dollar. If no one agrees to pay you, ask them what you could create that would be worth at least a quarter to them.
  3. Ask someone if they’ll pay you $1 for a 10-minute neck and shoulder massage (assuming you enjoy massaging people).
  4. Ask someone if they’ll pay you $1 for you to listen to them talk about anything for 10 minutes. You can market it as inexpensive therapy.
  5. Ask someone you know if they’ll pay you $1 to brainstorm 20 potential solutions to one of their problems.

As simple as these ideas are, if you actually take this exercise seriously and go do it, it shouldn’t be that difficult to earn your first dollar doing something you enjoy. Although the money you earn may be financially insignificant for the time invested, it will feel good to get paid doing something that doesn’t feel like work to you.</